Did you just get dumped?
First things first, I want you to know that I’m sorry. Being dumped sucks, that’s for sure. I hope that you don’t take it personally and that you can fully move on from your ex.
Even if you just ended a relationship, you’re probably still really upset about how it ended. You probably need help moving on too.
Well, if you want to fully move on from your relationship, there’s one step that you need to take that is going to help you more than anything.
You have to separate from them on Social Media
It’s the only way you’re really going to move on from your ex. If you’re anything like everyone else in the world, you probably check your Facebook newsfeed a lot. Seeing your ex’s updates and photos isn’t going to help you move on. You’re likely going to fall into a habit of Facebook stalking them to see who they’re dating now. Deleting them prevents you from looking at his page all the time.
If you continuously see your ex having fun with their friends or posting status updates, it’s just going to hurt you even more. You’re not going to move on if you keep seeing them. It may seem like a small thing, but it makes a big impact.
Go through your social media profiles (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Reddit, etc) and delete your ex from them. Like I said, this may be really hard, but you have to physically separate from them. Social media connects us to people, and while this is a great thing, it’s not a great thing when you don’t want to be connected to someone anymore, like an ex.
Make sure you’re not friends with them on any social media profile.
Even if you want to be friendly with your ex, deleting them out of your life is the best thing to do. If you don’t see them, you’re less likely to think about them, and you’re more likely to move on faster.
If you truly want to stay friendly with an ex and deleting them seems harsh, then send them a quick heads-up text. Say that you’re deleting them on social media because you feel like it’s the right thing to do right now. Say that you’ll be friends on social media again once you’ve moved on from the breakup and you feel like you’re over them. If they broke up with you, they’ll understand. If you broke up with them, they may be a little hurt, but try to reiterate that you just need some space to move on and that it’s not personal.
Also, I highly recommend blocking your ex’s number. This may also seem really harsh, but it’ll prevent you from texting them late at night when you’ve had too much to drink. It’ll prevent them from sending you, “Let’s get back together” texts. Even though it may feel nice to receive those texts, it’s not healthy to wait around for them. Like I said, it’ll just prevent you from moving on with your life. You deserve to move on instead of waiting for a wishy-washy ex to text you.
If there’s something specific that you two need to work out, then work it out through text. But after all official business is settled, block them.
When you’ve moved on from the breakup and you’re feeling better about the breakup, you can re-friend them on social media sites and unblock their number. It’s not forever, it’s just until you’ve moved on.
If you’re struggling with a breakup and you need some tips to move on, check out my Ultimate Break-up Guide. This 22-page guide provides actionable tips and tricks for those suffering a break-up and how they can move on. The guide also covers:
-How to break up with someone in a way that doesn’t completely crush them
-Whether it’s okay to break up with someone through text or not
-Why you should never ghost anyone
-How to get over your ex in a healthy way
-How to get back into dating after having your heart broken
-The steps you need to take pre and post breakup
-Whether you should get back together with your ex or not
-How you can handle a situation where you have to see your ex
-And much more!
Hope you found this post helpful!