Being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world. You’re happy all the time, excited for the future and generally on cloud nine. Now a lot of people confuse being ‘in love’ with loving someone. However, these two feelings are distinctly different. When you love someone, you feel happy around them and you may love spending time with them. They may make you feel very special, and you may provide a stable support system for each other. When your relationship gets more serious, you’ll probably get to the love phase. A lot of people get there. However, not that many relationships make it to the, ‘in love’ phase. It’s a very different feeling, and it can be confusing to decipher. That’s why I’m here to tell you 5 signs you know that you’re in love with someone:
1. You feel an incredible, breathless, all consuming joy
When you’re in love with someone, it’s like you’re sucked in. You feel consumed with strong feelings of love. When you’re in love with someone, you gotta have them. You have the feeling of wanting to see them all the time, and whenever you’re apart it feels like you’re missing something. You may see the potential for a future with someone you love, but with someone you’re in love with, you really see the possibility of a future. They absolutely have to be in your future, it’s not even an option. When you’re with them, it’s like nothing else matters.
2. You truthfully want what is best for them
When you’re in love with someone, you truly want what is best for them. When you genuinely want what is best for someone, you don’t think of it in relation to your own desires. You want what is best for them, not best for the both of you. For example, let’s say he comes home from work and tells you that he got a promotion that’ll require him to work more hours. He’s absolutely ecstatic about this; he’s been working for months to get this promotion. If you just love the person, you may feel some jealousy that he got promoted and that he won’t be spending as much time with you. If you’re in love with the person, you’re going to feel happy that he got promoted first. It’s not even a question that you’d be happy about the promotion because he’s so happy about it. Of course it’s normal to feel a little jealousy or other emotions even if you are in love. The difference between love and in love though is that when you’re in love with someone, you put your needs aside to celebrate their successes.
3. You want to understand them on a deeper level
Being in love means that you have a strong desire to truly understand the person. You probably already know a lot about them–what their favorite foods are, what they like to do for fun, but when you’re in love you want more. You want to know more about them, about their life and you want to understand them better. You really want to understand them and be the best partner you can be for them.
4. You love them even when they’re gross
It doesn’t matter if they smell horrible or if they don’t fix their hair. When you’re in love with someone, you forget about all of that. It doesn’t matter as much what they look like anymore. You more so care about what’s on the inside, you care about their soul and personality. The things that were gross about them when you first started dating don’t gross you out anymore.
5. You know that you would make big sacrifices for them
Being in love means being willing to make sacrifices. If you are truly in love, you’ll want to make big sacrifices for them. Whether that’s giving them the last eggroll at dinner because you know how much he loves them or attending an event you dread but he loves, when you’re in love with someone you want to do those things for them. You’re happy to make those sacrifices because they make the other person happy. When you’re in love with someone, making big sacrifices also includes being willing to move to a new city with them or making another big life change with them.
If you aren’t experiencing these feelings, you shouldn’t be worried. It may just be too early in the relationship to really know if you’re in love with the person. Even if it’s not too early, maybe you just haven’t gotten to know each other on a deeper level yet. Being in love means knowing a lot about the other person but still wanting to know more. You may love the person very much and want to spend time with them, but you may not feel those ‘in love’ feelings. If you aren’t, it’s okay. Being in love is a serious feeling and it may take awhile for you to get there with your partner. Also keep in mind that some relationships are not meant to be ‘in love’ relationships. You ultimately may not be right for each other. Either way, you’ll know when you’re truly in love.