4 reasons being single is fantastic!
Did you just get out of a relationship? Is the single life dragging you down? I know when you’re newly single it can be a hard adjustment, but being single honestly isn’t that bad. In fact, I think it’s really great being single. Our culture celebrates relationships but I think it’s just as important to celebrate being single. Both states are great, but in different ways. I’m here to tell you why being single is awesome, and worth it in so many ways!
1. You can get to know yourself better
I find that being single is great because you have plenty of time to get to know yourself. You can spend time exploring what you really want out of your life instead of spending extra time trying to plan a life with someone else. If you want to move to a new city, it’s easier when you’re single. You can uproot your whole life and start over if you want. There’s no boyfriend holding you back. When you’re in a relationship it can get more complicated to pursue what you really want because you’re also focused on what you and your boyfriend really want. You only have your personal emotions to deal with instead of shouldering both of your emotional needs. Being single is great because you can find out what you want without the influence of someone else. This is pretty amazing because you can really be who you are and spend time figuring out your values.
2. You can continue your SSB (Secret Single Behavior)
As Carrie Bradshaw famously said on Sex and the City, “Secret Single Behaviors are the things you do that you never want your boyfriend to find out about”. Carrie’s SSB was eating jelly crackers and standing in her kitchen while reading fashion magazines. Her friend Charlotte’s SSB was staring at her pores in a mirror for an hour. The point is that when you’re single, you can do your SSB all the time. My SSB is watching bad TV shows like the Bachelorette. Everyone has SSB, they just don’t want to admit it to their significant other. When you’re single though, you don’t have to worry about hiding your SSB. When you’re living with someone, it’s a lot harder to hide that behavior.
3. You get to spend plenty of time with your friends and family
This is another overlooked part of being single. It’s great being single because you have plenty of time to strengthen these relationships. Now that you aren’t spending Saturdays shopping with your boyfriend you can spend Saturdays out with your friends. You can attend family functions and actually talk to your family instead of worrying about your boyfriend getting along with them. Being single is a great because you can build these relationships, but remember to keep them up even when Mr. Right comes along.
4. You don’t have to shave
When you have no boyfriend, you don’t have to shave your legs for anyone. You can even let other areas grow out. I went through a pretty serious hair growing single phase once and it was so liberating! When I finally caved and shaved my legs, I realized that I was doing it for myself and to look great instead of doing it to look good for another boyfriend. I felt the same way about makeup. Being single means that when you put on makeup, you can just do it for yourself and not for anyone else.
I know that being single can feel really lonely and debilitating sometimes. Believe me, I’ve been there. It’s especially difficult to be single if you just got out of a relationship, or if you’ve been single for too long. It can feel really frustrating to be single. My number one rule of advice is to not take being single personally. Just because you haven’t met the right person yet doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Embrace the single life, take some of my suggestions, and when the time is right the best person will come along.